I am what I consider to be a straight man. 36 yo. When I was 30 I let a tranny give me a bj outside of a bar. She wanted to take me home and perform anal sex on me. I didn't but it sparked a dormant feeling that I might like it. A year ago while in a relationship with a beautiful woman I began checking out craigslist. I corresponded for months with lots of people. I ended meeting a tranny and I let her perform anal on me. It felt kinda good but I knew it wasn't for me. But I continued talking to people online. My wife found the emails and it all blew up. I did not want to admit to anything and did what I could to deny everything. I knew everything she read made me seem gay. Or at least bi. I don't believe I am gay but the things I wrote would defiantly point in that direction. I finally admitted to everything. No more secrets. We are trying to work things out. We have a new baby also. It's been a year and I don't do anything like that anymore.
How normal is what I did?
Am I gay? Answer from a reader:
No he's not gay or bisexual. He is in fact straight.
He's perfectly able to be interested in a transgender woman and even receive anal sex from them and like it and be 100% straight.
Straight males can enjoy anal sex too. Many do from strap-ons from their own girlfriends or wives. It is not a gay or bisexual activity.
Transgender women are women and if what attracted you to them was their femininity and you're not aroused by actual men then you can consider yourself 100% straight.
Genitalia or chromosomes alone do not define someone's sex. Trans women physiological and phenotypically are women. Phenotypically meaning that their characteristics and physical attributes are that of a woman.
Many natural born women, believe it or not, actually can be genetically male having been born with XY chromosomes but like trans-women, mentally, physiological and phenotypically they are women and that's what really matters.
So let's look at the picture:
You enjoy anal simulation, don't like men and are attracted to women whether they be trans or cis-gender. You are straight, just open minded and willing to try out different sexual experiences and there's nothing wrong with that. So folks, what do you think??
Trans Women are unapologetically fashion conscious;
they have an insatiable desire to look more feminine. Just like
cisgender women, they always want to look younger and prettier. If you
visit any Transgender Dating Site,
you will be surprised and awed by the number of feminine beauties
looking for love. However, after the sex reassignment surgery, many
transgender women find themselves at the end of their wits on how to
look more feminine. It is important for transsexual women to understand
that clothes, cosmetics, and accessories are not the only aspects of
femininity, as femininity encompasses more than physical appearance. If
you are a transsexual woman and you are struggling with your femininity,
this article offers you an insightful guide to help you express your
womanliness to the fullest.
Unfortunately, even though transsexual women have a womanly gender
inclination, they were not brought up as women. As a result, when they
are “reborn” after the sex reassignment surgery, they can face some
challenges as they learn to embrace their femininity. The first step
towards embracing femaleness should be having a firm grasp on what it
means to be female. This involves reading and researching about
femininity and, if needed, hiring a femininity coach. Being female is as much mental as it is physical. The way you think,
therefore, is the cornerstone of being feminine. If you think you are
sexy, then you should walk and talk as though you are the goddess of
femininity. Understanding that femaleness is both a state of mind and a
physical state is a key factor in unlocking your feminine nature.
Your Voice and Movement
Some of the main areas that transgender woman should concentrate on
improving are how they move and talk. First, it is important to analyze
your current movements and identify any areas that are overtly manly and
abrupt. A woman is supposed to be gentle in her movements; she should
be polished, graceful, and decorous. All of these traits should be
readily apparent to everyone the moment you walk into a room. How you
sit down and carry yourself should be in line with your feminine side.
When seated, for example, your legs should never be apart; they should
be neatly closed together and tucked under you.
If you have a course, deep voice, it is important that you train it
to be more feminine. Several sources can help you develop a feminine
voice, including magazines and YouTube videos. Practice makes perfect;
hence, ensure that you practice daily. If possible, practice with a
friend who is willing to offer you honest, constructive feedback. The
more you talk and move like a woman, the more your confidence will soar
in your new body.
Just like the old song says, “You’re never fully dressed without a
smile.” To be more feminine, you need to know how to smile like a woman.
A smile not only brightens up your face, but it also makes you look
friendlier and more welcoming, traits both associated with femininity
and womanly charm.
Carry a Handbag
Many transgender women
avoid carrying a handbag because they do not know what to put inside
it. Purses and bags are both practical and important for daily life as
well as a fashion accessory for women. Some must-have products to pack
in your handbag include the following: deodorant, a compact mirror, hand
sanitizer, some lip products, cash, a notebook, and a pen.
To all the men, I will save you the suspense and spill the beans
right away. Transgender Women want men. I am not trying to be facile,
but that is pretty much it. I speak here as a man who has been in the
dating market for a long time and has just recently explored the world
of Transgender Dating. In the shark infested pool of cis-dating, cis women look for men that
are their ideal. A simple search of the dating profiles of cis women
will show the endless wish list cis women have with regards to men that
they would consider dating. With Transgender Women the situation is radically different.
Transgender Women are women for all intents and purposes and behave in a
manner that will shock the men who are used to masculine and
overbearing cis-women. Transgender Women have needs and desires just like any other person.
However due to their unique position, they have a greater understanding
of life and realize the essential fallibility of humans. They know and
accept that human beings are flawed and have to be loved despite their
flaws. Flaws have to be accepted and not corrected when it comes to true
Transgender Women want men who are open minded, who care and love
them, and who accept them for who they are, not the perfect ideal that
they would like the woman to fit into. In other words, they want a man
to find beauty in the average. It is precisely this aspect of
Transgender Women that makes relationships with them so much more
fulfilling and deep. As humans, we crave for a deeper bond that is more than sexual.
Transgender Women look for men who are their soul mates and who they can
share their bed and their dreams with. They want men who do not try to
mock them for their lifestyle and choices; rather, they want men who
accept them despite their choices. Transgender Women are also sexually very active and are much more
nubile than the average cis-woman. Therefore men with a high sexual
appetite (that is every man alive) will have a great time with them. Transgender Women will accept only those men who accept them. Make no
mistake, these women are not desperate or lacking choices. It’s rather
the opposite due to the novelty of Trans dating. Transgender Women are
relatively understanding of the flaws of their men, but only on the
condition that they understand theirs. In the end, all these women want
is a shot true love. Self loathing can lead to suicide or self destructive behavior of many types. To imagine yourself as innately inferior, flawed, and less savory than other people leads to self hatred. Self hatred can kill you.
Adult bullies target their victims in many of the same way children who bully do. While many people think that bullying only occurs amongst children, it can also happen in the workplace among adults. No matter what the age of a bully, they are opportunistic and tend to prey on people they perceive as a threat or that they dislike because of differences. Adult bullies almost always bully others continuously and when one target leaves, quickly pick another. The following traits are common in adult bullying victims and usually make the bully feel insecure or threatened. Adult bullying can be more of a challenge to handle because it is harder to recognize and not as widely accepted as the bullying that occurs with children.
Adult bullies target people who are good at their job and excel beyond them. Bullies want to eliminate their competition and make their work seem better than it is. While bullying is not acceptable no matter the age of the person doing it, adults will still bully others if they see it as the only way to solve their problems. Adult bullies target people who put them in danger of looking bad in an attempt to sabotage their work.
Adult bullies target people who are popular and well liked as well, especially if they are not too popular them selves. The more well liked and competent a person is, the bigger the threat they are to an adult bully. If an adult bully is seeking attention, they will target people who receive the most attention and try to make them seem less valuable.
Adult bullies target people with differences from themselves, especially those who have high morals and integrity. Adult bullies usually have problems coping with their own problems and are desperately trying to find ways to make themselves look better by targeting other adults who they perceive will not fight back. Adult bullies seek out these people because they are less likely to retaliate against them. Adult bullies target people with vulnerabilities as well, such as inexperienced employees or older employees. If a new employee refuses to join an established clique or act a certain way, adult bullies target them. If new employees do not conform or have new and independent ideas, they also may be targeted.
Adult bullies target employees who have talents, strong friendships, or who are excelling at their jobs because of jealousy and inadequacy issues. Adult bullies feel as though they have to victimize others because they are envious of their talents. Even though it would be easier to just work harder at developing their own talents, adult bullies seek to damage other people instead of working harder themselves.
Employees who have strong relationships with others may be the target of an adult bully because the bully feels left out and is angry that they are excluded. Many adult bullies have had problems forming their own friendships their entire lives. Adult bullying is often overlooked and misunderstood in the workplace. While bullying among children is more common, adult bullying does take place.
Why is it that so many people believe that they don’t have time or take the initiative to be romantic? Maybe most people don’t believe that they are creative enough to be romantic. Everyone is creative! The definition of being creative is having the ability or power to create. The word create offers a much broader definition than most people accept when it comes to the process of being able to come up with something original or simply well thought out.
Gifts that are considered to be traditionally romantic like candy and flowers are wonderful, but sometimes you need something that goes one step further. If your spouse enjoys flowers, you don’t have to settle for roses because they can sometimes become unexciting after a while! Present him or her with something completely original such as a daisy or another flower where petals can be counted. Ask him or her to play the childhood game of ‘they love me, they love me not’ and watch them pluck the petals as they go. However, don’t allow for the possibility of him or her arriving at the ‘they love me not’. Count the petals before you present the flower to your spouse and trim it so that there is an odd number of petals for the right outcome!
Arts and crafts used to be a fun break from the monotony of the school day, but believe it or not, it will come in handy when it comes to creative romantic gestures. Instead of promising that you will love him or her forever, show them. Take a piece of paper, ribbon or other material you choose and write “I love you” on both sides from end to end. Twist the paper 180 degrees and connect both ends of the paper until you have mad what looks like the figure eight. Tape or glue to ends together. You can present your love with a symbol that shows them your love for them is an endless love.
Creativity comes in many different forms! Being creative can mean creating an atmosphere. If you want to plan the ultimate romantic evening but funds are low or you simply don’t want to have to leave the house, shut down the electricity and imitate a power outage (it’s up to you whether or not you tell him or her!). You won’t have any distractions or heat, so it is up to both of you to keep the other warm and entertain each other. Maybe romance is on your mind, but he or she is going out of town. Did you know that people on airplanes are typically hopeless romantics? Any flight attendant would be more than happy to make sure that your spouse receives a special present after the flight has left the ground. Simply approach a crewmember after he or she boards the plane and they are usually more than happy to oblige a hopeless romantic like you! (You might want to make sure that the gift is unwrapped or keep it to a single rose due to heightened security.)
Creativity doesn’t have to come in the form of gifts every single time. Gestures like getting up and dancing with your spouse when a special song comes on the radio is quite creative and incredibly romantic! Whenever the mood strikes you, allow your creative juices to flow!
When a person consciously tries to become more feminine, it is usually
referred to as feminization. Depending on the use, it can have several
In biology, feminization is described as a natural process
which occurs in most species of animals. It has been known that some
fish can become female when there are no females in their group.
feminization process that occurs here is for evolutionary purposes.
Matriarchy is hardly ever mentioned in our history books.
Yet its nurturing dominance can be found practically everywhere in the
animal kingdom where expressions of natural femininity is undisturbed by
male dominance, especially in the phylum of elephants and hyenas.
would life be without the motherly instincts to protect, love and
nurture offspring, which is so gracefully displayed by the feminine?
The newly feminized man will escape the yoke and burden
of masculine role-play. Emotional expressions will be liberated and
feminine phobia will disappear. Resting when he's weary, accepting
support when he's weak and crying when he's in pain will be the norms of
Spirituality will exalt the male's level of consciousness and
his vision of feminine beauty will penetrate far beyond the female's
physical appearance. The newly feminized male and the newly feminized
female will both experience the reality of soul relating.
Feminization of Men: Introduction to the TransFemme Feminizing Program
What To Know Before You Start Male Feminization
Most individuals undertaking hormonal modulation or gender reassignment (hormone therapy) for male feminization can use a hormonal regimen with a high degree of safety. Regular monitoring of your health and blood work will assure that your good health is maintained.
As you explore transgender medical therapies through the Internet and other avenues, you should be prepared to discover a wide range of conflicting information and misinformation on the subject. Below is a list of general information and do’s and don’ts about male feminization.
Do not use any phytoestrogens (herbal hormones) as an appropriate feminizing therapy. Herbs do not achieve any measurable feminization and use of these non-pharmaceutical grade phytoestrogen products, especially in large doses, raises health safety concerns amongst many medical professionals. When herbal products are used for feminizing men, along with pharmaceutical or glandular hormone treatments, your overall feminization may be reduced as these preparations compete with TransFemme.
If purchasing medication through mail order and Internet businesses, deal with a known and reputable supplier. Do not buy products from foreign countries or products not made with the transgender customer in mind.
Do not overlook the necessary blood monitoring and medical oversight. Proper medical management not only avoids unnecessary health risks, but assures that you are sufficiently feminizing. It is common for individuals who self-medicate to be on a less than adequate feminizing regime.
Follow instructions: Take your dosing regimen seriously; arbitrarily increasing doses may put you at risk, and as well, forgetting to take prescribed dosing may slow your progress.
Don’t settle for less with regard to your health. You may come into contact with self proclaimed authority figures on the Internet who casually and wrongly suggest to you that medical monitoring is unnecessary, this is untrue and bad advice.
If you decide to manage your own feminizing therapies, at the very least, seek periodic check-ups at a local walk-in clinic.
If you decide to undergo hormone treatment, think through any desires you may have for having children as prolonged hormone therapy will likely render you irreversibly sterile.
Hormonal feminization is the subject of endocrinology, a specialized branch of internal medicine which is concerned with the study of the glands and hormones of the body and their related disorders.
Expectations For Feminizing Men
The goal of male to female feminizing hormone modulation therapy is the mental, emotional, physical and hormonal gender reassignment of the individual. Given the proper regimen and sufficient time, the likely expectation is a profound and comprehensive change in gender appearance and feeling as the transition and process of male feminization takes place.
This feminization of men process concentrates on manipulation of sex hormones, also called sex steroids; and as the process of hormonal gender reassignment involves profound biological changes as well as changes in one’s appearance, having a doctor you work with and a general understanding of the biochemistry of sex hormones makes sense. Height, voice, and bone size cannot be changed with the use of hormonal modulation treatments. When you want your voice feminized you may need vocal surgery and voice coaching.
We do not recommend orchiectomy (castration) because it interferes with the results ofTransFemme, your testicles provide testosterone which is converted by your body into estrogen. If you are thinking about having SRS in the future you will need your scrotum intact for creating a vagina.
Orchiectomy cannot produce additional feminization or speed the process of feminization of men any better than the use of drug therapies alone. You would still need to take estrogen and anti-androgens after orchiectomy.
Unless the orchiectomy is performed by a skilled surgeon the scrotum (which is often used to give depth to the new vagina) may be too small and scarred for use.
Most TransFemme customers given enough time see their testicles become smaller and less obtrusive so they can be hidden in bathing suits and clothing easily. Think of your testicles as your external ovaries, you need them!
If you decide to have castration surgery with or without future SRS, realize this procedure is major surgery! There are physicians who are willing to perform castration for less money and under less than optimum conditions in an office environment, but this may not be your best or safest option for feminizing men.
Common Reasons We Feel a Strong Need to Change Genders
Along with the mental condition that causes us to need to manifest an alternative gender, there’s a number of social & personal influences that tend to make us want to go further.
If you’ve already spent years crossdressing and going out in public? It’s not uncommon to feel a strong desire to transition, by default.
I call this “transitionitis”. Transition-itis Symptoms
I hate “removing” the girl
A common motivating factor is the despair following removing your female get-up & transforming back to your male self. Every part-time trans-girl knows and hates this moment. Sometimes makes you want to cry, no? Having to take her off can be so depressing - don’t want the fairy tale to end. It’s only natural you would consider keeping this imagery alive forever. Survival Tip Resolving this frustration is akin to a person learning to love their body if overweight. You must learn to look past the outward image and see the girl beneath your reflection 24/7. Make no mistake: this is a valuable life skill, regardless - particularly if you go further with transition since you’ll face conditions that make you feel “ugly”.
Learning to adore yourself: just the way you are - is one of life’s greatest lessons.
I Want to be Prettier
Another common trap is wanting to go further because we want to be with gender “prettier”. Early on, I never worried a great deal over trying to look extra pretty - accepted my lot amongst t-girl mediocrity and just tried enjoying spending more time as a girl. Later, I found myself scrutinizing every flaw - and hating it. I even got sensitive to even minor comments regarding my beauty - or lackthereof. Survival Tip Being pretty is a trap: there’s no way to “win”. Most women obsessed with beauty become ugly on the inside. My suggestion? Focus on trying to become a beautiful female soul - the sort of caring, good listener every man or woman loves to be around.
In the end?
That will make you prettier than your wildest dreams.
I Want Real Breasts!
Okay, I’m completely with you on this one. There’s not a part-time trans girl on the planet that doesn’t dream of having her own full-sized breasts: goes with the turf: clothes fit better, cleavage is easy to achieve and it's totally female.
I became very skilled at providing the illusion of C-Cups from zero flesh just by shading & using tape. Adding breasts is a monumental life change. If and when you successfully transition to full-time - you’ll take down this vision.
Once you've been dressing or living as a woman for a long while, it's easy to forget there’s lots of wonderful people just starting to explore their female side. Such new girls usually don't yet know a pump from a mule when it comes to women's shoes. I didn't when I started.
The internet changed everything for all of us. If you can't learn enough on-line to at least look fairly femme? I'm afraid I'm going to ask you to turn in your panties. *Laugh* There's just too much good information and too many nice, helpful people for you not to at least achieve your basic female goal.
One problem? There's literally too much information. Thus, I tried to organize what I consider to be the very best sites and ideas on particular issues - with dressing for first timers and early stagers in mind.
I hope it helps you a little.
The first thing I'd suggest is set up a binder with tabs, (or files) for each of the information categories of interest to you - shopping, wigs, make up, etc. This will give you a place to keep good ideas for easy reference in the future.
One thing that helped me a great deal was printing web pages containing information I needed and storing them for later use. It's amazing how many little details you forget, when you actually start to try something new.
You'll find links throughout my home page to other sites with great ideas. I suggest you keep a set of bookmarks on sites related specifically to your female development. I still wish I could find some of the places I discovered early on, but failed to bookmark.
think you could never look feminine?
Lots of new gals get slightly depressed when they begin their feminine journey. Why? Many feel they got to the party too late. They believe they're too old to start seriously pursuing this interest. Others look at photos of some knock-out-tranny and silently mutter - I could never look anything like her.
Guess what? You’re wrong! Almost every male on the planet can appear lovely as a woman with appropriate style & skills. When I first began dressing? My appearance would have frightened small children and most adults. Fortunately, I didn't put anybody through that misery...although my poor dog got plenty nervous with the results. *Grin*
I regret having thrown away my earliest photo's, but trust me - I looked hideous! The pretty woman inside couldn't seem to find her way into the image staring back from my mirror. The photos you see? They're not my worst. Rather, they were taken as a celebration for my having lost 15 pounds. Can you imagine what I looked liked with another couple of chins? *Smile*
At only 5'9, I tipped the scales at well over 200 pounds. My once athletic thighs turned flabby from years of shuffling papers. When it came to applying make-up? I didn't even know what foundation & blush were - let alone how to use them.
I only knew one thing: I had a burning desire to express a female side of my persona.
My adventure began slowly with the acquisition of select silky coverings from Victoria's Secret and other appealing lingerie . Before long, a wig was added to her arsenal. As time passed, additional accessories kept finding their way into her secret stash.
I’ve never been a huge fan of breast enlargement pumps. Most pumps out there are useless pieces of junk.
on the other hand, are easy and effective – and since they work on a
hormonal level, their feminizing effects go beyond breast enlargement.
recently, there’s been a BREAKTHROUGH in high quality, effective breast
enlargement pumps. And I’ve seen such great results from these gadgets
that I finally changed my mind! Here are 2 reasons to start using a breast enlargement pump: 1. Breast enlargement pumps stimulate breast growth through tissue expansion. Studies
show that applying tension to an area leads to tissue growth. Surgeons
use this technique (known as “tissue expansion”) to regenerate skin,
bones and other tissues. Guess what? It also works for breasts! Applying vacuum pressure to your breasts stimulates real growth over the long run.
2. Breast enlargement pumps give you an instant size boost. Besides
long-term growth, breast pumps give you an instant size boost by
increasing blood flow to the breasts. This swelling only lasts a few
hours, but you can enjoy the results in the meantime. Who couldn’t use a
breast boost before going out or stepping in front of the camera? The
breast enlargement pump you get matters. A lot of pumps come in one
size only, are uncomfortable and don’t provide the optimal suction for
growth. Stay away from these. Two models that work well for TG women are the Noogleberry and Bosom Beauty. Both have different-sized domes for a custom fit. The
Noogleberry costs about $60 and has a hand pump, while the Bosom Beauty
is $130 for the airlock manual system and $490 for the Bosom Beauty
2012 mechanical pump system. The Bosom Beauty 2012 has the strongest
suction, but the drawback is that you have to stay hooked to a machine
while you use it. Both can be used for 30 minutes to 1 hour per day.
But don’t think this means you should give up herbs. Combine a pump with the herb and massage routine. the results will amaze you!
I’d like YOUR feedback! Have you ever used a breast enlargement pump?
How did it work? Do you have any tips or suggestions to share with me
and the rest of the girls? Leave me your comments below! Love, Angel Bea
According to last month’s poll, 60% of the lovely ladies reading this blog want to lose weight. Here are two good reasons to drop the fat:
Males and females gain weight in the opposite areas. The more masculine fat you have, the harder it is to create a feminine shape. You want to look HOT, right? The closer you are to your ideal body weight, the better you’ll look as a woman.
Here are 3 tricks that helped me shed the fat I gained over Christmas (and afterwards, I want you to tell me YOUR best weight loss tips!):
1. Drink tea
Tea is an awesome ingredient for weight loss! Studies show that tea reduces your appetite and speeds up fat burning. Coffee, on the other hand, makes you fat. Coffee increases the stress hormone cortisol, which causes cravings and increases belly fat.
You have to drink black tea, green tea, or white tea to get the fat-burning effect. (Herbal teas won’t cut it.) The more tea the better, so drink at least 4 cups per day if you are trying to lose weight.
2. Cut the secret sugars
Sugar is one of the worst foods to eat if you want to lose weight. Sugar raises your blood sugar level, which increases insulin. Insulin promotes weight gain and fat storage, so it’s a short road to Fatsville from there.
Did you know that most of the sugar you eat does NOT come from candy bars and cookies? Processed foods are loaded with sugars that secretly make you fat! Here are some of the top sources of secret sugars:
Ketchup Salad dressing Peanut butter Spaghetti sauce Hamburger and hot dog buns Microwave meals Fast food
Avoid fast food and check labels for secret sugar names like “high fructose corn syrup,” “corn sweetener,” “malt syrup,” “maltrose,” “fructose,” and “sucrose.” You can find healthy versions of ketchup, salad dressing, spaghetti sauce, etc. in health food stores.
3. Eat more greens
If you want to get rid of your belly blubber, you need to eat more vegetables – especially green vegetables like broccoli, spinach, and romaine lettuce. They are packed with vitamins and minerals. If your body is nutritionally deficient, it will constant crave food to try to get the nutrients it needs. Green veggies also contain fiber, which fills you up and reduces your appetite.
If you don’t like the taste of vegetables, try making a green smoothie! Just throw some spinach or lettuce into the blender when you are making a fruit smoothie. You’ll hardly taste the greens, but they’re in there helping you melt the fat away!
Ok, now it’s your turn!! Tell me …
What’s working for YOU? Share your best weight loss tips with me and the rest of the girls in the comments section below!