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#Transwoman: Name Change for #Transgender

Changing Your Name

Changing your name is a very important milestone in one's transition. The purpose of this article isn't so much to tell you how to do it, but rather point you in the right direction if you do not know where to start. I will start off by saying that the procedure for a legal name change is different just about everywhere (sometimes different among counties in a state) so rather then try to outline the procedure state by state, 

The National Center for Transgender Equality has a 

great interactive ID Documents Center to learn how to 

update the name and gender on your driver's license, birth 

certificate, or federal ID like passports:

This page should help you get all the information you need from a legal stand point including where to get the necessary forms and what you will need to do. I would advice you to get everything you need before you head out to the court house. One additional bit of advice I can give is that you may want to consider checking the requirements to see if you have to "make a case" for your name change. If you do then you may want to get a letter from you therapist and / or doctor stating why you are changing you name. 

Also, before legally changing your name you may want to read my advice on picking one first as in most states, once you change it you can't change it again.

After you change your name do not forget to change your social security card and if possible your birth certificate (Note that this is not possible in every state). You will also need to change you name with all your creditors and anyone else, i.e. work, passport, library, etc. It takes some time to get all these ducks but it is what it is.

Lastly, make sure you get multiple copies of your legal name change documents. Everyone and there brother will want a copy as proof. I also carry one with me just in case.

Coping with #Transgender Stress

Being transgender is hard.

It is no surprise that transgender individuals experience a kind of stress that cisgender (those who identify with the gender they were assigned at birth) individuals do not. People who identify as transgender can and often do experience stigma, discrimination, violence, and internalized homophobia/transphobia. 
People who are transgender also are at higher risks for “loss pileups.” Family, friends, and romantic partners may not understand the transition and not be able to provide the needed support. There is also a danger of job loss or financial loss, especially for transgender women. Some researchers believe this discrepancy is related to the greater difficulty transgender women have passing, as opposed to transgender men, as well as greater male privilege for transgender men.

There are many ways of dealing with the challenges that come with transitioning and living as a transgender individual, some healthier than others.

How do you deal?
There are two primary coping styles that people use to deal with difficult things in life: Emotion-focused and problem-focused, also known as facilitative and avoidant, respectively.
These are fancy terms for a simple concept.

Simply put, avoidant coping is when you…(drumroll please)….avoid the problem.
 It occurs when you avoid dealing with the emotions and thoughts that come up when you experience discrimination or loss by:

Minimizing the issue: “I’m sure he didn’t mean it.”
Becoming emotionally detached: “Whatever. I don’t even care.”

Over-intellectualizing: telling your friends how the socially constructed discourse of gender and the rigid constructions of gender stereotypes are contributing to an unfriendly work environment and not adding, “It really hurt that my boss passed me over for a promotion after I started the transition from male to female.”
Using food, drugs, or alcohol to dull your emotions or thoughts
Isolating yourself from social support
Ironically, the more you try to avoid a problem, feeling, or thought, the bigger and more anxiety-provoking it becomes.

How to develop better coping skills
As you can probably guess, facilitative coping is the style we are recommending. Facilitative coping is all about adaptation. It is taking whatever we are given in life and transforming ourselves or the situation to deal with it in a positive manner.
Some ways to develop facilitative coping include:
Seeking Social and Professional Support.

Seeking out social and professional support is the number one factor in decreasing anxiety and depression in transgender individuals. Discovering friends and family that are supportive of your transition, locating a local (or virtual if you live in a rural area) support group, and finding a transgender-affirmative therapist can make a massive positive impact on your experience.

BelieveAs cliché as it sounds, believe in yourself! Early in the transition process, many transgender individuals experience a sense of hopelessness about the future, believing that transitioning is an impossible, daunting task. As people move further along in the transition process, these feelings begin to change as they realize they do, in fact, have the power to follow through with their transition.

Reframing is looking at your situation in a new light. For example, reframing the difficulty one experiences while transitioning as a source of personal strength and resilience.
Acting “As if”
No one feels confident all the time. However, if you walk out the door with a smile on your face, putting out the confident air that you don’t necessarily feel in the moment, your emotions will often eventually catch up with your actions.
Learning a new skill or hobby (or reviving interest in an old one)

Cognitively challenging yourself by learning a new skill, such as a language or instrument, has been shown to decrease anxiety and depression. Additionally, it provides an opportunity to expand your social network and find a new passion. In the same way, reviving an interest in an old hobby can be immensely fulfilling.

Education and Advocacy
Many transgender individuals find great joy and meaning in doing education and advocacy work for the transgender community. Someone further along in the transition process can find a new source of meaning in helping someone new to the process talk through the initial anxiety and offer them hope for the future.

Being transgender is hard. AND it was the best decision I ever made.

#Dickgirl; story for #Trannys and #Transgender

Face to face with it underneath the sheets, the true size of his cock was apparent. In that brief lighted moment it had looked enormous, just hanging limply against his thigh, and as it grew in my hand, I had felt that it was going to be quite large indeed. But as I lay underneath those covers, stretching my lips around it, taking it into my mouth, I thought I had never opened my mouth so wide in my life. And I took it in as deep as I could, but the base was elusive, I would gab before it reached my nose. So as I sucked and licked his massive member, I cradled his balls with my hand, teasing them. I heard him moaning above the covers and figured that I must have been doing a decent job despite my shallow throat. As I sucked and fondled, he began bucking his hips, trying to drive it deeper into my throat.

And then in the midst of it all, his bucking, my sucking, his moaning, he said something as he laid his hands on my head, stilling me.

I pulled off of his member, my saliva strings connecting us, "What was that?" I mumbled, that slippery cock looking more and more appetizing the longer I was not on it.

"I said, I have to fuck you." His breaths were short.

My heart skipped, "I told you...its my period."

"I don't care." He groaned, reaching under the covers, he yanked me up on top of him, our faces meeting once again. His eyes begged me. "I need you."

"Blood..." I mumbled.

"I don't care." He repeated, his hand tracing down my thigh.

I grabbed it inches before it found my crotch, my secret. "Wait..." I said. "I have an idea. Just lay back and relax."

"Very well." He mumbled, lacing his hands behind his head.

I sat atop him and turned around so that I was not facing him. I slipped my hands into my panties and freed my cock from between my ass cheeks. It stood straight out in front of me. I reached between my legs and grabbed a hold of his massive cock, aiming it up between my ass cheeks. I twisted my way down onto his lap slowly, inching his cock into my ass. I moaned and had to stop myself from masturbating as I did so.

My own tiny cock ached and pulsed. I heard Vito moaning behind me as I stretched my ass around his massive cock, slowly lowering myself, slowly fucking him. And as he filled me, his cock stretching into me, a shuddered, my own tiny cock as hard as it could get. In that moment, as I rested my legs against his, him fully inside me, I felt whole. I felt like a real person again. I felt needed, I felt wanted. Suddenly, as I moved up and down his shaft, my ass swallowing it each time, I no longer missed Sarah. Vito started bucking his hips as I lowered myself down on him again and again, my ass cheeks slapping

#Transgender #Stress: Tips To Boost Your #Spirits for #longevity.

by:Taylor Arnold

If you’re feeling like everything is getting on top of you, or you’re finding it difficult to cope or function, or you’re feeling down in the dumps, then try these 5 easy-to-do tips to relieve tension and stress and boost your spirits:

1. Take a relaxing bath. Add music, candles and a glass of your favourite drink: beer, tea, hot chocolate, wine or even champagne. Close the door and forget about everything else for an hour or so. This helps to increase levels of calmness and the calmer we feel, the less likely we are to get stressed out or depressed.

2. Comedy night: get in your favourite nibbles: chips, tortillas, salsa, crackers, cheese, pizza, chocolate, cookies, ice cream etc. Crack open a bottle of wine or pour yourself a beer or two and spend a full evening watching your favourite funny films or comedians. Laughter raises our spirits and is a great antidote to the stresses and trials of modern living. 

3. Get out of the firing line: Take off for some peace and quiet for a day or better still a weekend or a week. Take a journal, relax and gather your thoughts. When we’re under pressure or struggling to cope with a major situation or event in life, seeing solutions to our problems can be really difficult. Distance from problems can bring clarity and relieve tension. I love going to the coast when I feel like this and it always, without fail, helps me to calm down and find solutions. I don’t know why but there’s something really soothing about being near the ocean. Being near water, come to think of it.

4. Increase calmness and feel great by indulging in massage. Share a massage with your partner – create a relaxing atmosphere by softening the lights and have oils and towels to hand. Lavender oil is particularly relaxing. Or, treat yourself to a massage from a professional masseur or masseuse. For a really invigorating massage, visit a Turkish baths if you’re fortunate enough to have one nearby. Massage is very relaxing and increases intimacy between lovers. It’s one huge stress buster as well but be warned, it’s addictive! Not a bad thing to be addicted to though, and it will do you no end of good. 

5. Spend a week without watching any television. Television can fill your mind with negativity, bombard you with image manipulation via commercials and give you a distorted view of reality by showing you everything that’s bad about the world. Famines, disasters, murders, violence, war – the list is endless – and news programmes and soap operas are full of such events. So give your mind a break from this assault on your senses. Abandon the television for a week and do something more rewarding instead: Read a book, listen to music, socialize, workout, go for a walk or try your hand at something new. If you need to hear the news, listen to a radio news bulletin once a day. But try and avoid them for one week, replace them with something more life enhancing and see how you feel. 

The above ideas are very simple to implement but they are also very effective in helping to relieve stress and tension. Give them a try and watch your mood levels rise!

Until next time.

#Transgender: Receiving head? #transsexual #tranny #sissy #tgirl #transphobic.

Special guest: Dan Savage

On a recent Savage Lovecast episode, a 26-year-old guy who identifies as cisgender and straight Informed us he'd been dating a transgender woman, and while her penis didn't bother him and he was "attracted to her naked or clothed or what have you," he didn't enjoy sucking her dick and wanted to know if that made him a bad person or if it made him "innately transphobic."

The man said he's always gone down on his partners in the past, but when he and his current partner fooled around, he found he didn't like "sucking penis" and wasn't sure how to bring it up to her or if he should just make himself do it anyway. 

I replied to his query by telling him that the person he needed to communicate all these complicated questions to was his partner. Some transgender women he's known have felt it was really important to have their partners "love and appreciate" their genitalia, but other transgender women felt that if a partner was too focused on their penis, that maybe they were just there for "the dick" and only wanted to be with a penis that was attached to "something that presents female otherwise because he's a cock-hound." 

The guy's lack of interest in going down on her doesn't necessarily make him a bad transgender ally, but recommends that he have this conversation with his current partner to see how she feels and go from there. 

Thanks, Angel

Do You Have any Excess #Masculinity


When you talk about sexuality and gender, society plays a big influence. During the old days, it was accepted that there is only two genders: man and woman. But the modern times is recognizing a third gender: the gays or the homosexuals.

Although the concept is still not accepted in conservative societies, it should still be acknowledged as a fact of life. Today, there are many transgender, transsexuals and transvestites that are wishing that they could become a woman completely, not only in body but also in mind and in heart.

When a man consciously decides to become a female, the process is called feminization. Although very controversial, this process is important to complete the transformation. Physically, a man can easily transform into a female. He could wear cosmetics, grow his hair and have surgery. Surgeries could include breast implants and removal of his male genitalia.

The man could also increase the level of the female hormones in his body to naturally change his physique. There are estrogen-laden pills that could be purchased and taken to change the skin’s texture, reduce facial growth and soften curves.

Even with such changes, the conscious mind is still thinking like a man and the person would still feel that his transformation is incomplete. 

Through the process of feminization hypnosis, you will be able to acquire the emotional as well as psychological aspect of woman. A qualified hypnosis would make simple suggestions while you are under the influence of hypnosis. Since the subconscious is more receptive to messages and suggestions, you will feel, act and think 100 percent woman in no time at all.

Feminization by hypnosis does not require any pills or diets. It will simply open the part of your consciousness that has been resisting the complete transformation to a woman. You will no longer feel trapped or ashamed because your mind and your personality will no longer experience conflicts.

Hypnotherapy is also known to be effective in treating addiction and phobias. It is not surprising that it could also be effective in feminization. If you are interested in this technique, simply browse the internet for additional information on hypnotherapy.

#Masturbation: #Pleasure, #pussy and Good Health

Not only is it physically healthy but As one Christian said:"Isn't it incredible that one of God's most beautiful gifts,masturbation, is held in such contempt by those who wear their religion on their arm. No one has ever become pregnant, impregnated someone, become diseased, or been physically harmed because of the act. I'd like to meet the person who has passed puberty without ever doing it."

You still have not gone insane. You have not gone blind. You have not grown hair on your palms. You are a completely competent member of society - despite all the times you've done it. Kinsey and the latest Sex in America report show there's a whole lot of shaking going on. Today's sex researchers have come to grips with the fact that masturbation has important physical and emotional benefits for both men and women.
"Masturbation is a normal, natural activity throughout life," says Robert Pollack, a psychology professor at the University of Georgia. It may even contribute to mental health and not doing it may lead to psychosexual problems.
For men, masturbation or regular sex is good for the prostate and can prevent painful prostate blockage. For women it can help reduce cramping and for both men and women has been shown to have a healthy effect on the immune systems as well as reducing overall tension and helping emotions.

Besides being healthy for the body, a private grope can help both a man and a woman better understand their own sexuality. If you can learn to lie back and enjoy it and really pay attention to the pleasure it gives your body - no one knows better than you what gives you maximum pleasure - you can share that knowledge with a partner and have more mutually fulfilling sexual pleasure sharing. The self-awareness gained from masturbation makes it a central feature of many sex therapy programs.
Notice when you are standing where your hand falls if you hang it in front of you. Apes do it, dogs and cats do it, elephants do it and even porcupines have been observed doing it, probably very carefully. One reason we may be so programmed, paradoxically, is to increase our odds of producing offspring. Older sperm can lose their ability to swim well. A good masturbatory flush guarantees fresh, robust sperm for mating.

Storing seminal fluids for long periods can also cause prostate congestion, which in turn can lead to urinary and ejaculatory pain. Regular ejaculations, either through masturbation or intercourse, can help ward off this condition, also called nonspecific prostatitis and , for obvious reasons, "sailor's disease" and "priest's disease."
Another reason why nature designed us to masturbate is to strengthen PC muscles, much like "Kegel" exercises. This is especially true in females where strong PC muscles are practically the sole factor in whether labor is easy and fast or long and difficult. Females masturbating regularly with multiple orgasms would develop strong PC muscles and should have easier labor.

Masturbation is also an ever-renewable health resource. In fact, the people who start the earliest and do it the most often are the ones who do it longest into old age. So, as with all sexual activity, it's "use it or lose it."
Love, Solar Bay

#Transwoman: 3 Unexpected Ways to Be More #Feminine

Putting on a dress and lipstick aren’t the only ways to express your femininity. (We women are more complex than that!)
That’s why I wanted to go beyond the obvious and share some “unexpected” ways to be more feminine.
Ready to boost your womanly allure? 
Try these 3 tips:
1. Buy a new perfume

The right perfume can make you feel irresistibly feminine.

While it’s great to have a “signature scent”, it’s also good to switch things up sometimes.
Since scent is strongly linked to memories, your current perfume may no longer represent who you are.
If that’s the case, it’s time to go shopping! Look for a perfume that matches the feminine qualities you want to express NOW:
Try a floral scent if you want to convey your soft, romantic side.
Try a woody or oriental scent if you want to bring out your inner seductress.
2. Be more polite

Countless studies have shown that women are more polite than men. It doesn’t matter how good you look… a lack of social grace is NOT pretty.

Here are 3 things to keep in mind.
Always remember to say “please” and “thank you”. These little words go a long way!

Use softeners in your language. For example, instead of saying “I can’t hear you” say “I’m sorry, I can’t quite hear you.”

Consider how you come across online. Remember, it’s as important to be polite in emails and online as it is in person.

3. Loosen up

Want to instantly improve your feminine image? A simple secret is to loosen up. This applies to your body AND your mind.

First, loosen up your body.

Women are naturally more limber than men. If you have a tense and tight body, it’s going to translate into stiff, jerky movements – the opposite of feminine and graceful.
To loosen up:
  • Consciously relax your body, especially your jaw and shoulders.
  • Stretch your muscles on a daily basis.
  • Take lots of deep, relaxing breaths.
This will do more to feminize your movements than all the hip shaking in the world!
Next, loosen up your mind.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t get hung up on “passing” or trying to please everybody.
Instead, they embrace who they are while constantly striving to improve themselves.
Life is short, so above all, relax and enjoy the journey!
What are YOUR favorite ways to feel feminine?
As always, I’d love to hear from you on this topic…
What are your favorite – and maybe unexpected – ways to feel feminine?
Please share in the comments below!


#Transwoman #Tgirl #Transsexual and #sissy Mistakes to Avoid

5 Male to Female Movement Mistakes to Avoid

Clothes, hair, and makeup are important aspects of your feminine image.

But your MOVEMENTS say more about you than you probably realize.

It doesn’t matter how good you look… If your movements give off a masculine vibe (or worse, are exaggerated and unnatural), you’re probably not making the impression you hoped for.

The first step to mastering your feminine movements? It’s avoiding some common mistakes!

Here are 5 male to female movement mistakes to avoid – and what to do instead:
1. Over-exaggerated hip swinging

There’s nothing more alluring than the sexy sway of a woman’s hips as she walks. But you should never overdo this. In fact, if you are consciously swinging your hips, it’s probably too much.

A better approach is to simply put on a pair of high heels and walk naturally. Heels automatically cause your hips to sway. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.
2. Stiff body movements

Stiff isn’t sexy. As I mentioned earlier, the secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body.

Tense muscles translate to stiff, masculine body movements. Focus on relaxing your body instead. Do stretching exercises to help release built-up tension.
3. Poor posture

Your posture is the foundation for your movements. Here are two posture mistakes to avoid:

    Slouching: If you’re tall, you might be tempted to slouch to downplay your height. Don’t. Slouching isn’t attractive and it definitely doesn’t make you look more feminine.

    Arching your back: On the other extreme, avoid exaggerating your posture by arching your back and sticking your butt out. While you might think this looks “sexy,” it actually looks silly.

The fix for both of these mistakes is to stand tall with natural, lifted posture. This makes you look confident and feminine.
4. Stocky shoulder movements

Men carry their weight in their upper bodies, while a woman’s center of gravity is in her hips. In men, this often translates into strong upper body movements.

As you can see in the video below, the hallmark of a masculine walk is “stocky” shoulder movements. Compare that to the graceful sway of the women’s hips.


To counteract this tendency:

    Keep your shoulders down and back. If you feel your shoulders coming forward, literally roll them back into place.

    Focus on keeping your shoulders still while relaxing the hips. This will help transfer the movement to your lower body.

    Keep your body weight neutral (or even slightly back) instead of leaning forward. This helps downplay the look of your shoulders.

5. Taking up too much space


There are many differences between male and female body language. One of the biggest differences is that men take up more space with their bodies while women tend to keep the space more closed.

You can see these differences in the video above:

    When men walk, they typically have a space between their arms and body, while a woman’s hands brush her hips.

    Men’s steps are longer and there’s often more space between the feet.

    There’s even a space between the thumb and hand, while women tend to keep their hands in a closed or “cupped” position.

Fascinating, right?

To correct this, rotate your elbows in so your arms stay closer to your body. Keep your feet closer together and take shorter steps when you walk. Finally, keep your thumbs tucked into your hands.
Are you making the right moves?

Now that you know the most common mistakes, here’s another example of feminine movement to study and emulate. Notice the graceful posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed body movements: 

How feminine are YOUR movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful?

Please share in the comments below!

Do You Feel Guilty About Being a #sissy, #Crossdressing or #Transsexual

Do you feel guilty about crossdressing or being transgender? Sadly, many of “my girls” tell me that they do.
If you feel you have to lie or sneak around to keep your feminine side hidden, I can understand the conflict.
But let’s get one thing straight – there’s nothing wrong with crossdressing or being transgender. Period.

We live in a world with very defined gender roles. Unfortunately, these roles are even more rigid for males.
It’s OK for women to express their masculinity by dressing like tomboys or by acting strong and assertive. But if a guy looks or acts feminine, he’s labeled as weird, weak, or gay.
The underlying message is that it’s OK to be masculine (even if you’re a woman), but femininity is something to be ashamed of.

What the heck!?
Society is slowing changing, but the time to reject these outdated messages is NOW.
I think Iggy Pop said it best:
“I’m not ashamed to dress like a woman because I don’t think it’s shameful to be a woman.”
Iggy Pop dress quote
There’s no shame in changing your gender to match who you are on the inside either!
I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts on this topic…
Do you struggle with guilt or is it a non-issue for you? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Leave me your comments below!