Women who first fell in love with a man who was actually transgender
I love him - thus I accept her
There’s a large number of transsexual women still married or in a committed union with a woman they first knew and loved “as a man” - who in turn stayed with them during transition and beyond.
For many of these women? There’s actually no attraction to a lesbian union. In fact? That’s the most challenging initial aspect of staying in the union.
However, most discover lots of additional obstacles after their man starts changing in earnest: inappropriate fashion, hormonal outbursts, the desire to flex her female sexuality - it’s a very long journey.
However, those couples I know that survived it and stayed together? They’re the most sound marriages I’ve ever witnessed: trans or otherwise!