Afraid you can’t pass in public?Once you've been dressing or living as a woman for a long while, it's easy to forget there’s lots of wonderful people just starting to explore their female side. Such new girls usually don't yet know a pump from a mule when it comes to women's shoes. I didn't when I started.
The internet changed everything for all of us. If you can't learn enough on-line to at least look fairly femme? I'm afraid I'm going to ask you to turn in your panties. *Laugh* There's just too much good information and too many nice, helpful people for you not to at least achieve your basic female goal.
One problem? There's literally too much information. Thus, I tried to organize what I consider to be the very best sites and ideas on particular issues - with dressing for first timers and early stagers in mind.
I hope it helps you a little.
The first thing I'd suggest is set up a binder with tabs, (or files) for each of the information categories of interest to you - shopping, wigs, make up, etc. This will give you a place to keep good ideas for easy reference in the future.
One thing that helped me a great deal was printing web pages containing information I needed and storing them for later use. It's amazing how many little details you forget, when you actually start to try something new.
You'll find links throughout my home page to other sites with great ideas. I suggest you keep a set of bookmarks on sites related specifically to your female development. I still wish I could find some of the places I discovered early on, but failed to bookmark.
think you could never look feminine?
Lots of new gals get slightly depressed when they begin their feminine journey. Why? Many feel they got to the party too late. They believe they're too old to start seriously pursuing this interest. Others look at photos of some knock-out-tranny and silently mutter - I could never look anything like her.
Guess what? You’re wrong! Almost every male on the planet can appear lovely as a woman with appropriate style & skills. When I first began dressing? My appearance would have frightened small children and most adults. Fortunately, I didn't put anybody through that misery...although my poor dog got plenty nervous with the results. *Grin*
I regret having thrown away my earliest photo's, but trust me - I looked hideous! The pretty woman inside couldn't seem to find her way into the image staring back from my mirror.
The photos you see? They're not my worst. Rather, they were taken as a celebration for my having lost 15 pounds. Can you imagine what I looked liked with another couple of chins? *Smile*
At only 5'9, I tipped the scales at well over 200 pounds. My once athletic thighs turned flabby from years of shuffling papers. When it came to applying make-up? I didn't even know what foundation & blush were - let alone how to use them.
I only knew one thing: I had a burning desire to express a female side of my persona.
Renee's adventure began slowly with the acquisition of select silky coverings from Victoria's Secret and other appealing lingerie . Before long, a wig was added to her arsenal. As time passed, additional accessories kept finding their way into her secret stash.
Guess what else happened? The drain cleaning mixture ate right through the PVC pipes...resulting in an expensive visit by a plumber. To add insult to injury? My chest broke out in a rash and itched for days.
What a blonde moment that was.
don't be blonde
If you had a chance to start your life over as a child...knowing what you know now - ever considered what you'd differently?
If your like most of us, you'd probably focus on enjoying the process of growing up a bit more, wouldn't you?
Guess what? You're about to get that second chance.
You're starting on a lovely journey towards finding happiness with all of you. There's a myriad of pleasurable and divine sites along this way. Take the time to relish each phase of your development.
Let me clue you in on an important secret to transgender happiness. No matter how hard you try...and no matter how much you learn? You'll always find another t-girl prettier than yourself.
Know what else?
This is for your pleasure - not anyone else's. If you define yourself by others? You'll never be happy.
I can promise you this: beauty - comes from the inside not the exterior surface. Beauty is not something you put-on...it's something you bring out. Many sisters get so caught up in trying to improve their appearance that they fail to enjoy the pleasure of becoming beautiful.
Enjoy this second childhood while it lasts. Make it a fun and healthy one - and you'll become a balanced and happy adult t-girl in the years ahead.
Try to hurry it, and you'll eventually have to deal with your childhood issues again - when things are a lot more complicated.
Sound familiar? It should.
Listen to your own advice...and have some fun!
Smiling often - is what life is really all about...