masturbation: sex with someone you love. Most people learn pretty early on that their hand is a capable friend with benefits. It’s natural, effective and whole lot of fun.
Yet many guys still get stuck thinking that the best way to masturbate is simply as follows:
Switch on a movie.
Grip penis gently but firmly in your strong hand.
Move up and down repeatedly at lightning speed.
Ejaculate into a tissue.
Return to the paused video game.
This is of course one of the most satisfying masturbation techniques known to mankind.
The speed and pressure you can apply brings about a satisfying orgasm. But you can add much more variety as you’ll see in the next few tips.
2) Don’t forget Madam Palm’s twin sister: 4 ways to masturbate using your other hand
two hands are better than one. Even at this basic level, you can still spice things up by using your other hand. Here are some ideas:
Try only using your other hand.
Try using both hands at the same time. If you can put them one next to the other on your shaft, then lucky for you and any girl you meet. But if not, you can try placing the penis in between both palms pressed together.
You can use one hand to move up and down the shaft while the other plays with the head of your penis.
Wringing is a great double-handed technique. Imagine wringing the water out of a cloth by squeezing your hands in opposite directions. Just be a bit more gentle with yourself!
3) Don’t leave your balls hanging
2 balls. Your balls are more than just an odd shaped storage facility. They are an erogenous zone which you can use to heighten your orgasms.
It’s up to you to work out the best way to masturbate by including your testicles; all guys are different, but here are some suggestions:
Pull them slightly downwards while masturbating.
Try caressing, stroking or tickling them – experiment to see what and where feels good.
Try just holding them in a light but firm grip with the other hand.
There is another good reason to spend some quality time with your balls. If you know what they feel like normally, you can look out for any unusual lumps – something all guys should do on a regular basis.
4) It’s not just women that have multiple erogenous zones
Diagram of the male and female erogenous zonesIf you think the best way to masturbate is all about your penis, and maybe your balls, then think again.
It’s a popular belief that only women are blessed with multiple erogenous zones. But the truth is that men are more sensitive than you might think.
For example try touching your nipples in the way that you would a woman’s. Experiment with different strokes, pressure and movements.
Try caressing the inside of your thighs or your stomach. If there’s anywhere that you know you are sensitive, don’t be afraid to explore yourself further with touch.
Some guys will be more sensitive than others in different areas, so it’s up to you to find out what works for you. There are no rules, so get to know your own body and find out what floats your boat.
5) Moving south: the perineum
The Perineum is the area in-between your anus and balls. It’s a soft padded area which is sensitive to touch. You can try caressing it or pushing it gently with your spare hand.
6) The holy grail of the male G-spot
diagram showing the man's g-spot. Some cynical folk will say the male g-spot is a lost Atlantis which never existed in the first place.
But there’s no doubt that there are parts inside the anus which respond well to self-stimulation.
For more open-minded and less squeamish guys, one of the best ways to masturbate is to include the anus. For others it’s strictly a one-way street.
If you’re willing to explore here though, then you could be in for an orgasm-increasing treat. Here are some ideas for you:
Don’t forget to wash before you start.
Check that your chosen nail (yes – one finger will do) is short and not sharp. File it down if necessary.
Add plenty of lubricant on your finger (proper lubricant is better so you don’t accidentally stick something in there which can burn)
Rub around the outside of your anus to begin with.
Gently insert a finger as far as is comfortable.
You can then just keep the finger inside while you masturbate with your other hand as normal, or move it gently in and out. Whatever works for you.
The G-Spot is a small area a couple of inches inside. It should feel like a little ball just over an inch in diameter. This is actually the outside of the prostate. You can softly rub this spot if you manage to find it, and if it’s pleasurable.
Stimulating the G-Spot is known in the tantric sex world as a prostate massage, and is an effective way of enhancing orgasm. The key though with all these ideas is to be gentle and soft.
7) Experiment with different positions
If you just sit in your favorite chair or lie on your bed, you’re not going to get anywhere near simulating sex.
And as you’ll find out in part 3, simulating sex is one of the most important masturbation techniques for men. Here are 3 ways you can use your body more effectively:
Hold your penis under your body, lying on your bed on top of your hand. Then thrust into your hand.
Try kneeling or standing and thrusting into your hand. The idea is to keep your hand still and use your body to move.
Change positions from time to time: kneeling, standing, sitting, swopping hands or anything you can think of to add variety.
And in case you’re wondering, unless you’re a yoga master, have a missing rib or could enter the Guinness book of records for your length, it’s extremely unlikely you’ll be able to do the necessary gymnastics to use your own mouth.