“True love does not alter the beloved, it alters itself:” –Soren KierkegaardTo all the men, I will save you the suspense and spill the beans right away. Transgender Women want men. I am not trying to be facile, but that is pretty much it. I speak here as a man who has been in the dating market for a long time and has just recently explored the world of Transgender Dating.
In the shark infested pool of cis-dating, cis women look for men that are their ideal. A simple search of the dating profiles of cis women will show the endless wish list cis women have with regards to men that they would consider dating.
With Transgender Women the situation is radically different. Transgender Women are women for all intents and purposes and behave in a manner that will shock the men who are used to masculine and overbearing cis-women.
Transgender Women have needs and desires just like any other person. However due to their unique position, they have a greater understanding of life and realize the essential fallibility of humans. They know and accept that human beings are flawed and have to be loved despite their flaws. Flaws have to be accepted and not corrected when it comes to true love.
Transgender Women want men who are open minded, who care and love them, and who accept them for who they are, not the perfect ideal that they would like the woman to fit into. In other words, they want a man to find beauty in the average. It is precisely this aspect of Transgender Women that makes relationships with them so much more fulfilling and deep.
As humans, we crave for a deeper bond that is more than sexual. Transgender Women look for men who are their soul mates and who they can share their bed and their dreams with. They want men who do not try to mock them for their lifestyle and choices; rather, they want men who accept them despite their choices.
Transgender Women are also sexually very active and are much more nubile than the average cis-woman. Therefore men with a high sexual appetite (that is every man alive) will have a great time with them.
Transgender Women will accept only those men who accept them. Make no mistake, these women are not desperate or lacking choices. It’s rather the opposite due to the novelty of Trans dating. Transgender Women are relatively understanding of the flaws of their men, but only on the condition that they understand theirs. In the end, all these women want is a shot true love.
Self loathing can lead to suicide or self destructive behavior of many types. To imagine yourself as innately inferior, flawed, and less savory than other people leads to self hatred. Self hatred can kill you.